Public Displays of Affection

02Oct06

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The Straits Times today has a very interesting feature on H8 today, under Youthink. A photograph of a young couple hugging on an MRT train was taken by a reader and sent to Stomp. The couple were wrapped around a pole and each other, and the reader and her 12-year old daughter had nothing to hang on to. She described the behaviour as ‘shameless’.

Quite a few people leapt in with their opinions, and I shall reproduce a few in part here for your reading pleasure.

I am all for PDA, as long as it does not get out of hand. How do we know when our behaviour has crossed the line? […] My take is, if it makes the people around you uncomfortable, don’t do it. It may be a free country and you are free to do whatever you want, but why allow other people to draw erroneous conclusions about you?

– Mazuin Khamis, Ngee Ann Polytechnic graduate

I have a few objections to the points he raises. First, he pegs the standard of distasteful behaviour at that which results in surrounding people’s discomfort. Second, he states that individual freedom is uncurtailed but we should nonetheless refrain from certain acts so as to prevent people from thinking bad of you.

While his sentiments pretty much echo mine in that PDA = generally bad, his rationale is flawed. The motivation behind the refrain from PDA that he suggests is that of external rebuke. However, the gauge of one’s standard of decency should be internalised rather than ascertained from one’s surroundings. If people around you are uncomfortable with you dancing on the streets, it doesn’t necessarily mean your behaviour has crossed the line. It just means you don’t entirely conform with societal norms, which cannot be a reason for condemnation of such behaviour. Instead the standard should be realised by one’s sense of morality.

As with most “Westernised” breaches of decency, the blame is almost always pinned on our youth… These days, when career comes before family, and monetary gain is viewed as the logical choice over spending quality time at home, parents are increasingly leaving their children to their maids or at childcare centres…. serves as a reprimand to neglectful parents who have lost control of their children

– Yusuf Abdol Hamid, Ngee Ann Polytechnic graduate

Come on man! Here we have youngsters out gallivanting and making out in public, and what do such youths do? They turn around and blame their parents! No, seriously, blaming our parents for ‘neglecting’ their children and thus tacitly allowing their decay of morals? Isn’t much of a surprise that the future generations just seem more and more ill-disciplined and (dare I say it) repugnant if they can’t even assume responsibility for their own actions.

On campus recently, I saw a couple publicly displaying their affection. As I passed by, the girl squealed gleefully: “Honey, people are watching.” The guy replied: “Because my girlfriend is so pretty.”

– Nicholas Sim, first-year business administration and law student at NUS

Definitely, without a doubt, my favourite of the lot. Because I think i’m not alone in making a simple educated guess as to which couple in Law School he is referring to! I hope they read this and realise they are disgusting. Anyone else from law here not know who i’m talking about?

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17 Responses to “Public Displays of Affection”

  1. 1 zhenz

    i carry a HP iPAQ. PDA all the time … do u? aiyah end of the day another tammy might emerge … all budding wannabes lah .. give them a chance .. if not, the internet would have failed to serve it’s purpose

  2. I don’t mind if two good-looking people engage in PDA. It’s all a matter of aesthetic appeal you see. What I don’t want and don’t need to see are ugly/fat people making out. It severely affects my utility level. So I grant all good-looking people the licence to make out in public, with nary a piece of clothing. PDA/nudity rocks!

  3. 3 zhenz

    i concur

  4. 4 jj

    Me 2.

  5. 5 db

    i see the juris influence in the writing ha. who’s the couple? to me just do it away from the crowd, or if need to do, keep it simple and not like the couple in question. pretty or not, they get the cleave.

  6. 6 zhenz

    simi cleave? i only know cleavage

  7. 7 jj

    Obviously db means splash damage. Although I would say for the pretty ones, it should be 70-95% but for the uglies, it should only be 10-15%.

  8. 8 zhenz

    so des ne … battle fury sia … ok lor .. note taken.

  9. 9 anonomys

    well i think pda should be aloud any where as long as its not out of had but kissing huging and holding hands is fine it is stupid in most schools that they have pda rules. In Jr. high it should be aloud casue thats when every body usully gets there first boy freind or girl friend. schools that make that aginst the rules are really stupid cause they ruin some students life casue they get suspended for it or stuff like that idk.

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  12. 12 bob

    i think nicholas sims is a freaking idiot

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  14. It’s some werid but maybe acceptably

  15. 15 asdf

    personally pda should not be a question of how pretty the couple is overall or even how much cleavage one shows but it should be judged on the way the couple feels. given: a couple should not have sex in public schools. unnecessary: banning students from hugging, short kisses, or holding hands.

  16. 16 amarah

    EVRY ONE NEEDS TO BEQUIET WE DO WHAT WE WANT WITH OUR BODIES AND IF ITS WRONG TO ENFORCE THAT THEN I DONT KNOW WHAT IS BECOMING OF THIS WORLD…

  17. 17 amarah

    I HAVE ANOTHER THNG 2 SAY…MOST PEOPLE ARE RIGHT SEX ISNT AND SHOULDNT B ALOWED IN SCHOOL BUT SHORT HAND KISSES HUGGING AND HOLDING HANDS REALLY IS RATHER G RATED COMPARED TO WHAT MOST KIDS DO ON THE SLY…PEOPLE ESPECIALLY ADULTS NEED TO EXEPT THAT WE ARE YOUNG ADULTS AND THAT THEY TO WERE ONCE YOUNG AND FREE SPIRITED AND OVER ALL…HUMAN…WE ARE LEARNING EVENTUALLY TO START AND SUPPORT FAMILLIES AND YET WE CANT HUG SOME ONE WITH GETTING A DETENTION FORM SLAPPED IN OUR FACES!!! ITS RIDICULOUS AND VASTLY STUPID


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